Today’s topics was about how to change relationships from bad to good, and how to connect with others and create new relationships.
One of the first questions asked was for advise on how to connect with people that you dont resonate with especially when they dont want to go deep. Â Ray gave some great tips on having compassion for that person. Â He talks about creating a space for that person where they feel safe and are able to express themselves without fear. Â Many times when people hold back it is because they have had bad experiences or are in a state of fear, so if we interact with them in a way that shows love and honor they will feel encouraged to open up.
This clip also has a great section on what to do if you find that you are not interested in what people are talking about. Â First we get a short answer to just “Get interested!” and then the longer answer of “If you want people to find you interesting you need to find them interesting“.
Nelson shifted the focus to love and compassion for the other person when he talked about going into situations with the intent to make other people happy. Â He shared his feelings on coming from an introverted space but then realizing that he could have a powerful difference in the lives of others around him.
The conversation then moved back around to the topic of interest and Ray talked about not being interested in talking about Football. Â He asks us what do you do when you want to have a relationship with someone but you aren’t interested in what they are interested in? Â Ray points out that he feels that listening out of obligation is insulting. Â He also feels that if there is somewhere else you would rather be or something else you would rather be doing then to do that instead.
So if we cannot approach someone with love and respect it was decided that it is best if we dont waste our time or insult them by pretending that we are interested. Â That is when the female energy perspective was spoken about. Â It was said that even if you are not interested in what someone is talking about you can reach out energetically and see the topic through that persons eyes. Â You would then be able to feel it the way they feel it, to some degree, and love the feeling more than just the topic.
On the other side of the coin if you dont like the conversation you dont have to focus on the topic. Â Instead focus on the person and have them relate their interest to something that both of you can relate to.
After that the conversation moved to embracing fear and the negative emotions we find in relationships. Â We need to recognize that love is behind hate and through contrast we can enjoy the good emotions more.
At the end of the clip Jordan and Ray talked about the future of the Panic to Freedom program. Â The plan is to add more content, meditations, and videos to the main program as well as revamp the members area and the forums. Â We have a lot of exciting changes happening in the next few months are we hope you will be apart of them!
So for today I challenge you to go out and connect with someone, try out some of the tips that were spoken about and let us know in the comments or on the members forums how it went for you!
Live free my friend!
Kirsten & the Panic to Freedom Team