Have you ever received a message from someone and before you even read the message you are starting to feel anxiety? Do you see the caller ID on your phone and suddenly dread answering it because of who you see calling? Why do we do that? What is it that is so scary about the unknown?
To answer that question Ray and Jordan have put together an awesome video about Recognizing the Stories we tell ourselves. Check it out here!
What we often end up doing is predicitng what is about to happen, based on expereinces from our past. We have been hurt before and we project the fear of that happening again into our present moment. So when we answer the phone, or read that message we are already on the defensive. We have already raised our mental sheilds to brace for what we think will happen.
This ability is built into us to help keep us alive and has given us a huge evolutionary advantage. We can see or predict the movements of others before they happen. Its like a real life version of chess were we move to counter an attack even before it happens.
That is a powerful skill that we sometimes over use. What I mean by that is we rush into battle when there is no battle really happening. We end up on the offensive or on the defensive before an event happens which can often cause the person we are interacting with to counter us. If I enter a room and begin attacking a percieved threat, the person I am speaking to will often become defensive or attack back.
We can have interactions that are real and powerful without the sword or the sheild. Powerful interactions full of love, truth, and growth for everyone involved. What we need to do to make that happen is recognising the story we tell ourselves is just a story. If someone sends me a message I need to recognise that I have not read it yet and I do not know what it is about. All of the things I think that it might say are just a story. Until I read the message it is not happening right now and I cannot properly react to it.
This works on many other fears too. Am I scared to check the mail or speak to my neighbor? Why am I scared of that?
I understand being fearful about putting my hand in a hot stove; it will burn me and that will hurt. But I do not know for sure if there will be a bill in the mail that I need to address right now or if my neighbor will want to argue.
Staying in the present moment mentally, and recognising when we tell ourselves stories, is one of the most powerful tools for seeing what is really going on in our lives. Every day we, the Panic to Freedom Team, are working very hard to do as the old saying says and “not make a mountain out of a mole hill…”
Also for an update about the program, we are filming a powerful tranformational movie as well as making the site much easier to use. We are super excited to show it to you very soon.
Thank you for reading and have a powerful day!
Kirsten, Ray, Jordan and the Panic to Freedom Team